Balance

By. Sam Garvin.

“The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” – Proverbs 31:11-12 ESV

In Genesis 2:18 reads, “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.’” There is a lot to unpack in this scripture and the connection between the Woman and the Holy Spirit. The word “trinity” is not mentioned in the Bible but it is flooded with God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit as 3-in1. How all 3 were present at the beginning, the wife’s role as the helpmate, and so much more. 

The Creation of Man and Woman fascinates me and how it showcases from the Beginning how the relationship between a Husband and a Wife should function. The way God had designed us to be but we live in a world that is fallen; full of sin and death. The tug-a-war between the roles of Men and Women is a result of The Fall. During the Creation of Man and Woman says a lot about the relationship before the knowledge of Good and Evil stepped into the picture.

In Genesis 2:4-25, God made Adam a helper, Eve. To walk beside him, to encourage him, to challenge him with all love and reverence (deep respect) of how God created him to be, and do. You must understand, God gave Adam authority, first. Even when Woman (Eve) was created, Man (Adam) gave her, her title. Woman. 

In Genesis 3:1-24, the serpent came into this story to cause discord between man and woman (Husband and Wife). Giving half-truth calling it the truth when in fact it was a lie. Causing doubt in Eve which once she believed the lie, affected Adam. (Yes, Adam was in charge and had his part in the story equally as Eve.) It takes two in a relationship but it only takes one to take it in the wrong direction. People like to read in between the lines in this story. We don’t know if Adam saw Eve speaking to the serpent. That detail is not mentioned. I would even go further to question if Eve’s childlike mindset (not knowing good from evil) made it easier for her to be deceived and Adam trusting Eve caused him to stumble. My issue is that once Eve ate the fruit, she knew better and still handed the fruit to her husband to eat. The first action of a woman leading her man. Which caused The Fall. 

(Note: I am NOT saying women are not allowed to have leadership roles. If it is God’s will, who am I to judge. In scripture it is flooded with women that work along side their believing brothers and sister in the faith.) But to intentionally lead a man into your self-fulfilling desire, it is wrong. “So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.” – James 4:17 ESV. 

Sorry ladies, this might change your world once you notice this. It has changed mine. God is a God of order and even after the fall. He still gave Adam the authority to name woman, Eve. As a wife, my husband is still the head. Like Jesus Christ is the head of the Church. But we work along side one another, side by side. Equals as in one flesh but still individuals with a personal relationship with Christ. We battle our flesh, which can cause fights. But at the end of the day, we are to forgive like Christ forgave us with Love and Respect. 

We have a second account in the Bible of another woman taking the lead by being impatience with God’s promise, Sarai. With her disobedience, it has caused the ongoing attacks toward our beautiful Israel and the Jewish people. But it is by God’s mercy where Jesus enters into the story. Might not resolve current conflict in our lives or theirs but Jesus changes everything. 

Single or Married ladies, be careful how you lead and the intentions of your hearts. We must be God-loving and God-fearing Women that take responsibility of our actions instead of pointing fingers. Our culture is doing enough of that. 

Discussion Questions:

1. In Matthew 22:37, “And he (JESUS) said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.”  Read Ephesians 5:22-33. If you are married, how does this speak to your heart? And if you are single, how does this story apply to you and those verses in Ephesians?

2. For my Single Sisters, in Song of Solomon 3:5 reads, “I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles or the does of the field, that you not stir up or awaken love until it please.” Read 1 Corinthians 7:17-40 & Proverbs 4:23. Why is it important to not stir up or awaken love?

3. In Genesis 3:16, —-“Your desire shall be for [or against] your husband, and he shall rule over you.” The tug-a-war from The Fall, between Husband and Wife. Men and Women. Our culture is screaming for their rights but the only rights we have are truly given by God. We all have a sin nature that daily we need to nail to the cross and some days are better than others. By this verse, how can we encourage our brothers and fathers in Christ? And be counter-cultural. 

4. In Isaiah 59:2, “but your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God, and your sins have hidden his face from you so that he does not hear.” Eve and Sarai’s disobedience has affected the course of our relationship with God.  So instead of allowing our pride of wanting to be right, how can we approach God when we see the error of our sin? Read Hebrews Chapters 3 – 4:16.

5. A hardened heart cannot receive counseling from the Holy Spirit. In Ephesians 4:30-31, “And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.”

“Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him [JESUS] we might become the righteousness of God.” – 2 Corinthians 5:20-22. Asking for forgiveness is not an option when it comes to our faith. How does Jesus Christ coming into our story change things? 

“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.” – Colossians 3:12-13.

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